To Be the “Perfect Housewife” or not to be…?
What is the right way to describe a “housewife”? I don’t know if it is the right terminology. I seriously believe that a woman can have it all. She can be an amazing mother, an executive chef, a “merry maid” and a grab the bull by the horns business woman, and of course a supportive wife.
There are so many different cultures that consider a woman to be in charge of the household. For instance, in a Hindu family, the man is called the Griha Swami and the woman is called the Griha Swamini. Basically the man is the head of the house but they are described as a “team”. The couple lives in the state called “Grihastashram” or a family system. They nurture the family and help the members in it, both young and old, through the hard times and joyous times. They are a housewife team.
In China it was a different story. There was laws enforcing women to stay in the home and their daughters were forced to follow their mothers around throughout the day to learn their “duties” for their future marriages. Nowadays in China, the housewife is not as easily found, the woman in China is now needed to work because of the fact that one person’s income is not sufficient in the major cities.
In previous decades, teenagers in high school were forced to take classes on homemaking. Basically taught them how to cook, clean, raise babies and of course to sew!!! Who doesn’t want to learn how to sew!?! ME!! That’s who! To be made to learn these things were, back then, in the norm of things. Now if you take a cooking class in high school its for and easy A on your GPA, I know it was for me. But why have times changed so much? There are the obvious reasons, teen pregnancies and single mothers (at least the major reasons). But why has society changed so much as to being a stay at home mom or a housewife become a degrading thing? Maybe degrading is the wrong word, I’m trying to say the some people men and women would laugh at the fact that a mom stays at home, and doesn’t “have a job”. Did you know that a stay at home mom saves a family on average about $80,000!!!! That is one hefty paycheck and so worth it. As we all know, mothers and housewives work many unrecorded hours… I do believe that that might be the understatement of the entire century… Many these women rely on their partners or spouses to bring home health insurance and benefits of their careers and jobs.
I give my full respect to those women that stay at home with their children, and their home, and their dogs, and their laundry, and I could go on and on and on with that list.
Many modern women choose to leave the workforce to be at home and build their children’s development in behavior and attitude. Some plan to go back to work or back to college to receive higher education. To be able to stay at home and develop your child’s behavior, to be able to raise them as you would like to, to me is very important. If the child doesn’t respect their mother…then who will they respect?
Even myself not being a fulltime stay at home mom, I understand what it means to do that. I give you my u tmost love and respect. Thank you for being the “housewife” or the “homemaker” it means a lot to the world and sets an example that we will soon realize could change a family tree for a lifetime.
God only Loves,
Mina
P.S: Some great websites to check out after reading this blog; The Retro Housewife and The Perfect Housewife. One has views on how to have some fun being one and the other just has HOW TO’S!!!
Thursday, December 30, 2010
Wednesday, November 17, 2010
Respect...
Respect…or Manners…
Where has the respect gone? I do not believe that I am the only one who feels this way. I know that other people feel this way. Today I was talking with a teacher, she deals with the “naughty kids” or as she put it, “they just made some bad choices”. As I was talking with her, I realized that she felt the same way that I do. I believe that kids and young adults are not taught the respect and manners as we once were. People do not care about people anymore. Where has all the love gone?
When you were younger were you taught to respect your elders? Because you should have been! I was raised in a household where you always respected someone who was older than you, no matter what. My father was the law and I learned from him the respect that I have for people today. We were taught to hold the door open for people, anyone and everyone. We were taught to always let your elders sit in the front of a vehicle, simple things like that, and most important, always do what you’re told.
In my generation, respect and chivalry is disappearing. Not many young adults, my age, do any of those things. Most people think that chivalry is being a gentleman on a date, doing the things a man should do, like hold open the door to the restaurant and opening the door of the car. Those are great things to do but, you should be doing those things all the time, for everyone. When I don’t see someone behind me and let the door close in their face, I feel so bad and have to go open the door again and apologize. Am I the only one who does this? Are parents really not teaching this to their children? Everyone grows old, do you want the door slammed into your face when you do? Just because some young punk didn’t hold the door?! Not me.
I want my child and my future children to have the same respect instilled into them as I did. I will have that respect for people until the day that I leave this earth. I am hoping that my children will do the same.
To love is to respect. If you love someone, you give them the respect that they deserve.
God only loves,
Mina
Where has the respect gone? I do not believe that I am the only one who feels this way. I know that other people feel this way. Today I was talking with a teacher, she deals with the “naughty kids” or as she put it, “they just made some bad choices”. As I was talking with her, I realized that she felt the same way that I do. I believe that kids and young adults are not taught the respect and manners as we once were. People do not care about people anymore. Where has all the love gone?
When you were younger were you taught to respect your elders? Because you should have been! I was raised in a household where you always respected someone who was older than you, no matter what. My father was the law and I learned from him the respect that I have for people today. We were taught to hold the door open for people, anyone and everyone. We were taught to always let your elders sit in the front of a vehicle, simple things like that, and most important, always do what you’re told.
In my generation, respect and chivalry is disappearing. Not many young adults, my age, do any of those things. Most people think that chivalry is being a gentleman on a date, doing the things a man should do, like hold open the door to the restaurant and opening the door of the car. Those are great things to do but, you should be doing those things all the time, for everyone. When I don’t see someone behind me and let the door close in their face, I feel so bad and have to go open the door again and apologize. Am I the only one who does this? Are parents really not teaching this to their children? Everyone grows old, do you want the door slammed into your face when you do? Just because some young punk didn’t hold the door?! Not me.
I want my child and my future children to have the same respect instilled into them as I did. I will have that respect for people until the day that I leave this earth. I am hoping that my children will do the same.
To love is to respect. If you love someone, you give them the respect that they deserve.
God only loves,
Mina
Wednesday, October 27, 2010
Motherhood...
Motherhood…
Mother, Momma, Ma, Mommy, Mum, MOM!!! So many ways to say it and so many ways to love it…
There are so many ways to be a mother. You can be a good mother, a supportive mother, a “wait til your father gets home” mother, a soccer mom, a stage mom and best of all a, HOT mom! By definition, a mother is a woman who has conceived, given birth to, or raised a child in the role of a parent. In my opinion it is so much more than that..
As a mother I find it hard to define myself as one. Yes I did give birth to my child, but I have also given love and support to my son. How do they define that? What do mothers think of themselves? Or how would they define themselves if asked? If I was forced to define myself as a mother, I would say that I am a very supportive mom, a very loving mom (who gives as many hugs and kisses and “I love you’s” as I can). I am very involved with my son as well, play with him as much as possible. Try to get him interested in anything and everything, that probably explains why he wants to do everything himself!!
I feel that you can definitely tell when a child is happy. Even if a child is shy, or quiet, you can still tell when he or she is loved and cherished. I work with children everyday, I take school pictures, I have to build a relationship with a child within a 30 second time span. Each and every child is different, I know that, but you can just tell. I hate to sound like a total “bragger” but I do have to talk up my son a little. Grant (my son) has this very special ability to make people love him. Even after just meeting him, people, men, women and other children absolutely fall for his charm. I just feel that he is so special, that I am so lucky to have him as a son and little friend. He loves to talk to everyone and they always talk back to him whoever it is. He is so amazing. People tell me all the time, "He seems like a happy guy!", and all I can say is, yeah he is.
In the world of definitions, it is also said that mothers are more likely than fathers to encourage assimilative and communion-enhancing patterns in their children. Now I know that my husband would probably disagree with that. My husband is just as involved with Grant’s vocabulary and characteristics as I am. He also wants Grant to grow up with a strong work ethic and a kind heart and to keep his loving personality, and his helpfulness as well.
I would also like to say a few words about my mother. She was and still is the most amazing mother anyone could ever ask for. She is loving, supportive, giving, kindhearted and everything warm and gooey that you can think of. She is my best friend, my most influential advice giver, and my son’s grandmother. She will always be with me, no matter what. When she does leave this world, she will take a BIG piece of my heart with her.
Mother’s give their children their first food, their first kiss, their first hug and would give their last breath. I know that I would do anything for my son and give him anything and everything on this earth if I could.
So to bring this to an end…What kind of mother are you? Or… what kind of mother did or do you have?
God Only Loves,
Mina
Mother, Momma, Ma, Mommy, Mum, MOM!!! So many ways to say it and so many ways to love it…
There are so many ways to be a mother. You can be a good mother, a supportive mother, a “wait til your father gets home” mother, a soccer mom, a stage mom and best of all a, HOT mom! By definition, a mother is a woman who has conceived, given birth to, or raised a child in the role of a parent. In my opinion it is so much more than that..
As a mother I find it hard to define myself as one. Yes I did give birth to my child, but I have also given love and support to my son. How do they define that? What do mothers think of themselves? Or how would they define themselves if asked? If I was forced to define myself as a mother, I would say that I am a very supportive mom, a very loving mom (who gives as many hugs and kisses and “I love you’s” as I can). I am very involved with my son as well, play with him as much as possible. Try to get him interested in anything and everything, that probably explains why he wants to do everything himself!!
I feel that you can definitely tell when a child is happy. Even if a child is shy, or quiet, you can still tell when he or she is loved and cherished. I work with children everyday, I take school pictures, I have to build a relationship with a child within a 30 second time span. Each and every child is different, I know that, but you can just tell. I hate to sound like a total “bragger” but I do have to talk up my son a little. Grant (my son) has this very special ability to make people love him. Even after just meeting him, people, men, women and other children absolutely fall for his charm. I just feel that he is so special, that I am so lucky to have him as a son and little friend. He loves to talk to everyone and they always talk back to him whoever it is. He is so amazing. People tell me all the time, "He seems like a happy guy!", and all I can say is, yeah he is.
In the world of definitions, it is also said that mothers are more likely than fathers to encourage assimilative and communion-enhancing patterns in their children. Now I know that my husband would probably disagree with that. My husband is just as involved with Grant’s vocabulary and characteristics as I am. He also wants Grant to grow up with a strong work ethic and a kind heart and to keep his loving personality, and his helpfulness as well.
I would also like to say a few words about my mother. She was and still is the most amazing mother anyone could ever ask for. She is loving, supportive, giving, kindhearted and everything warm and gooey that you can think of. She is my best friend, my most influential advice giver, and my son’s grandmother. She will always be with me, no matter what. When she does leave this world, she will take a BIG piece of my heart with her.
Mother’s give their children their first food, their first kiss, their first hug and would give their last breath. I know that I would do anything for my son and give him anything and everything on this earth if I could.
So to bring this to an end…What kind of mother are you? Or… what kind of mother did or do you have?
God Only Loves,
Mina
The beginning...
Good Day,
This is my very first blog...ever. I really don't know what everyone wants to talk about or what everyone wants to hear, but I feel like I have so many topics to talk about that I just need to get them out.
For instance, the all glorious and hideous...Love. Respect, is another huge one for me. And so many other things.
I have so much to say but no idea how to say it. Maybe give me some time and let me figure this "blog thing out".
God only loves,
MinaLew
This is my very first blog...ever. I really don't know what everyone wants to talk about or what everyone wants to hear, but I feel like I have so many topics to talk about that I just need to get them out.
For instance, the all glorious and hideous...Love. Respect, is another huge one for me. And so many other things.
I have so much to say but no idea how to say it. Maybe give me some time and let me figure this "blog thing out".
God only loves,
MinaLew
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